No exactly, no.

[Hmmmm, he hadn't exactly planned for the disclosure to happen like that.]

Some people find it... liberating. On a phsychological level, being restrained by another and told what to do can lift a weight off one's shoulders when one has too many responsibilities.

[Maybe he won't tell you about the spanking and the whipping just yet.]

It's a way to let off steam in a safe way.